Private: There
is a big difference between a secret relationship and a private one, though the
lines separating them are quite thin, the difference is clear. A secret
relationship transcends social networks and creeps into something we often
forget, which is real life. Where a private relationship can be one where you people
are quite public to your inner circle, but a mystery to those outside. A
private relationship keeps public opinions away from the growth of both parties
and gives both sides an opportunity to work things out.
Respect: Probably the biggest part of the relationship.
A productive relationship cannot exist without respect for one another. It
helps with every aspect of the relationship. Each side must respect what makes
their counterpart unique from their emotions, to their thought processing, or
even their need for space at times.
Individuality: At times, we tend to
get lost in the shuffle, when it comes to a relationship. We find ourselves
wanting to please the other, but feel like a bit of our own self is missing. Yes,
it is true that when in a relationship, you should think as one, but it takes
parts to make a whole. Both sides are unique beings with distinct backgrounds
and with time, characteristics will mesh and become one. Before then, don’t
hide or fail to share your stance on different topics, even if it is an
opposing view, this helps your partner know you a lot better. If it’s right
situation a whole lot more accepting.
Vigilant: We all want to know what our counterpart is
thinking or what it is they truly want, but the truth is we truly don’t know
everything we want in life. Half the time, things aren’t always said, they are
shown. We are all sensitive beings and with times, our views and opinions
change so we tend to give off body language rather than expressing how we feel
verbally. This goes for both genders; it’s just that one does it more than the
other. The more vigilant we are, the better the chance we can catch those
things that are lost in translation. In the process of converting feelings to
words, unfortunately certain things tend to go unsaid.
Adhere: There is no better feeling than knowing your
biggest supporter is the one you love. The more you prove to your partner you
are with them no matter what, the better results you get from a relationship.
People tend to fear getting hurt from relationship, but you can never really be
in one unless you give it a 100%. It helps with building trust when your
partner doesn’t have those fences up. I know we fear heartbreak, but the
rewards of a fruitful relationship far outweigh the pain of heartbreak.
Communication: This one I think explains itself; it’s so
simple it seems to get difficult. Communication takes away assumptions, which
is such an ugly word. An assumption in a young relationship is a virus, it
makes you lean towards what ifs, and usually that rarely is the case. The more
you communicate the better your relationship gets, we are all unique in the way
we handle different situations so communicating takes that barrier and helps
both sides understand each other. Whenever there is communication in a
relationship, rumors will hold no weight.
Yield: This being a very difficult task to ask, but
once it feels right, it might be time to be accepting and let go of all
defenses. It is what is best not just for your relationship, but also yourself,
and your better half. Once you start worrying less about yourself and start
worrying about your counterpart you are in a situation where you know, your
partner has your best interest in mind. Thinking of self-will only slow down
the process and possible hinders the entire relationship that you have both
build.
I consciously ignored
the word love because love seems to be a combination of multiple feeling and
words. It is hard to put your finger on love but when it is there, you just
know it is. Love is one of the building blocks in a healthy relationship, but
also a destination in others. I will happily touch on it at a different time.